A Funny Relationship Question | Cup of Jo

When I met Freddie this past fall…

…and he gave me his number, I entered him into my phone as “Freddie Sopranos.” His Hinge profile had mentioned not once, but twice, how much he loved the HBO show. I’d never seen it, so I started watching, curious to find out what all the fuss was about and to get to know Freddie better. I wanted to know what made him laugh, what made him think.

So much of what we love — the books, the movies, the sports, the hobbies, the people, the pets, the sandwiches, you name it — reflect us and our senses of humor, passions, sometimes even worldviews, don’t you think? All those trappings are such a fun part of getting to know someone.

For me, I’m always curious to see if a guy will find When Harry Met Sally as funny and timeless as I do, or whether he’ll dismiss a rom-com with a laugh and eye roll. The book Olive Kitteridge brought me to my knees — the way people’s lives are portrayed with such nuance and empathy, no detail too trivial — and I wonder, will a potential partner relate to that approach? Also, cheese, haha. I mean, you don’t have to eat cheese, but it helps.

Me and Freddie Sopranos

So, tell me: When dating, what books/movies/music do you like to show a new partner? What feels important to you or even representative of you? I’d love to hear…

P.S. My #1 dating rule, and my sister’s dating tip.

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