Categories: EDUCATION

Things You Can Say To Encourage A Child

by TeachThought Staff

There are many ways to encourage a child, but for students of any age, honest, authentic, and persistent messages from adults that have credibility in their eyes are among the most powerful.

The National Center on Quality Teaching and Learning has put together a graphic below–50 Ways To Encourage A Child. It was designed for younger students (head start/kindergarten), so we thought we’d create another list more diverse in the types of praises and to students of different ages and grade levels.

You can find our list immediately below and their graphic after.

Things You Can Say to Encourage a Child (By Grade Level + Sentence Stems)

Short, specific language you can adapt on the fly. Organized by school level and type of encouragement.

Elementary

Effort-Focused

I noticed that you kept going even when it got tough.
Your practice shows—look how much smoother that was today.
You tried more than one time and it made a difference.

Process-Focused

You chose a new strategy; tell me what made you pick it.
You checked your work carefully and fixed a slip—where did you spot it?
The way you explained your steps helped everyone follow along.

Character-Focused

Thanks for waiting your turn—that was patient and respectful.
Helping a classmate like that was kind.
You were honest about what felt hard; that’s brave.

Curiosity-Focused

Your question helped the class learn something new.
That wonder you shared opened up a great idea—what made you think of it?
You looked closely and found details we missed.

Collaboration-Focused

You listened first and then added your idea—nice teamwork.
Everyone got a turn because you made space for them.
You solved it together; what did each person bring?

Self-Reflection Prompts

What part are you most proud of, and why?
Where did you get stuck, and how did you get unstuck?
What’s one thing you’ll try the same way next time?

Middle School

Effort-Focused

I noticed you stayed with the plan and finished strong.
Your revisions clearly improved this—what changed the most?
You set a target and met it; walk me through how you managed that.

Process-Focused

Comparing two approaches helped you choose the better fit.
Your notes show how your thinking moved from idea to evidence.
Feedback shaped this draft—point to a place where it shows.

Character-Focused

You stayed respectful during a tough exchange.
Owning the mistake and correcting it showed integrity.
Calm troubleshooting when the tech glitched kept the work on track.

Curiosity-Focused

Your “what if…?” pushed the conversation forward.
Looking for evidence before deciding strengthened your point.
A follow-up question like that deepens the discussion—ask another.

Collaboration-Focused

Clarifying roles helped the group move faster.
You brought quieter voices in; the work improved because of it.
Summarizing the group’s thinking kept everyone aligned.

Self-Reflection Prompts

Which strategy helped most today, and why?
If you had ten more minutes, what would you refine first?
What did this teach you about how you learn best?

High School

Effort-Focused

You stayed with the hard part instead of bailing—that mattered.
Consistency over several days produced this result.
You balanced speed and accuracy; how did you plan that tradeoff?

Process-Focused

You set criteria before choosing a solution—smart move.
Testing an assumption and revising improved your outcome; talk me through the pivot.
Your evidence chain is clear; which counter-example did you rule out?